Mindfulness has been defined as ‘being aware of what may be important’. Let’s just consider that! We all know that what is important to one person, is not important to another. So is mindfulness another way of saying, being aware of others wants and needs? Let’s be honest, being mindful of others is not a bad way to conduct ourselves. If only people were more mindful and considerate of others then there would be less arguments, confrontations and upset. How many times do we think before we take action?
learning to see things from another person’s perspective is part of developing your behavioural flexibility. There are in fact always two sides to any story and I have learnt to my cost that rarely are things black and white, often they are shades of grey. Often it is not until we take time to think about things, to be mindful that we consider the possibilities. Are you stuck in your ways, set in your views? Could mindfulness have a part to play in how you experience the world and the experiences you create for other people?
Mindfulness can be related to the way we think, act and behave to other people. Our voice communication and body language can be changed and adapted when we are mindful of others needs. If we are speaking in public or presenting then mindfuless ‘being aware of what may be important’ is a key component of what we have to say. Charismatic people are often described as ‘making you feel that you are the only person in the room’. This kind of mindfulness is the ability to adapt your communication, body language and behaviour so that you connect with the other person.
One final thought ‘staying in the moment’, being fully committed to what is happening in that place, at that time with the people who are there is also mindfulness. Try noticing how many times your thought wanderer to different subject when you are with someone. Now try focusing on what they are saying, the way they are saying it, in other words being fully in the moment. Play, have fun and learn. If you would like any help with how to practice ‘mindfulness’ and being ‘fully in the moment’ then please do give me a call 01442 255314.